"Small steps now can make the first day feel like a big win."
By Jaime Larry, Mental Health Professional, MAC Midwest
A Gentle Start to the School Year
The night before school starts can be filled with excitement, anticipation, and big emotions. For many autistic learners and their families, those feelings often begin long before the first day. New routines, unfamiliar faces, and changes in environment can bring uncertainty, and sometimes anxiety, for children and parents alike.
Over the years, I have walked alongside many families during this season, and I want to share a few strategies that can help make the shift feel more predictable, manageable, and even joyful. These tips are especially helpful for autistic learners, though many can also support children who are otherwise neurodivergent.
Quick Start Checklist
If you only have time for a few steps this week, start here:
Begin simple conversations about going back to school
Create a visual countdown or social story
Reach out to your child’s school team for orientation options
Practice coping strategies in low stress environments
Review your child’s IEP or support plan for needed adjustments
Strategies for a Smoother Transition
1. Start Early, Even if It Feels Too Soon
Many autistic and other neurodivergent learners need extra time to process changes in routines, environments, or social expectations. Begin talking about school in general terms now, even if you do not have all the details. As more information becomes available, such as teacher names, classroom locations, and bus times, layer in those specifics.
2. Use Visuals to Build Understanding
Visual supports can help learners anticipate and understand what is ahead. Try:
Countdown calendars or paper chains
Visual schedules for morning and after school routines
Social stories to walk through a typical school day or introduce staff
If possible, include photos of the school, classroom, or key staff. Adding names and faces builds familiarity and reduces anxiety.
3. Visit the School and Meet the Team
While open houses are helpful, some learners benefit from a quieter visit. If your child has an IEP, ask about:
One on one tours or orientations
Meeting not only the teacher but also office staff, custodians, cafeteria workers, and bus drivers
These connections help your child feel part of the school community from day one.
4. Prepare Sensory and Coping Supports
Ensure sensory tools like noise canceling headphones, fidgets, or access to a quiet space are in place and understood by staff. Practice using these supports at home so your child knows when and how to use them.
Role play different school scenarios and coping strategies such as:
Deep breathing
Requesting a break
Using a calming item
5. Remember the Siblings
School transitions affect the whole family. Talk with siblings about their own routines, when their brother or sister will leave and return, and what changes to expect. If it feels right, include them in school visits so they can feel involved and supportive.
6. Reset the Sleep Routine
Early mornings can be a big hurdle. Start adjusting bedtimes now in small steps of about 15 minutes earlier every few days, and reintroduce structured evening routines like bath, books, and lights out. Progress does not have to be perfect to make a difference.
Looking Ahead with Confidence
Whatever this school year brings, you do not have to navigate it alone. You know your child better than anyone, and with the right preparation, patience, and supports, you are already helping them take meaningful steps forward. Every learner’s journey is unique, and every season offers new opportunities for growth, connection, and joy. Across Minnesota and beyond, there are many organizations, educators, and community partners ready to walk alongside you, celebrate the wins, and provide tools that make the transition feel a little easier for your whole family.
Resources for Families
Here are helpful tools and trusted organizations to support you through the back-to-school transition:
Autism Speaks – Back‑to‑School Tips
Practical strategies to help autistic children adjust to the new school yearAutism Speaks – School & Community Toolkit
A comprehensive toolkit to support school-based and community engagementAutism Society – Back‑to‑School Resources
Guides, articles, and support materials to help navigate the school environmentMN Department of Human Services – Education Programs and Services
Minnesota-specific autism education programs, services, and supportsPACER Center
Offers advocacy tools, workshops, and guidance for parents and educators supporting learners with disabilitiesDisability Hub MN – Youth in Transition / Transition Services
Minnesota-based information and support for transitioning students, especially around education and independence planning
